Really appreciate the feed back. At the end of the day I realize I just need to go demo some bikes for as long as they will let me have them and figure out what is best suited and can grow with. I'm most concerned about just selecting the right bike and ignoring the budget aspect. That doesn't mean I want to drop $25k on my first adventure bike, I would much rather buy used and not feel bad when I inevitably drop it. On the other hand, I am a big believer in buy once cry once and what I don't want to have happen is mid trip realize I am on the wrong bike and end up doing a trade in.You will regret the 800 bmw on anything technical off road. The BDRs were designed to be a challenge on big off-road bikes. I have over 10k of actual off-road miles (TAT, TET, CDR etc)on various machines, dr650, KTM 690, rr cb500x loaded for travel.
Not a Klr fan but I am impressed with the new FI model. That would be a great choice. I don’t know how deep your pockets are but the KTM 790 and Yamaha 700 tenere are excellent bikes for what you have in mind. Even an Africa twin. You might even be able to get away with the KTM 390 or a royal enfield himalaya.
I will look around and see if your recommendations are available locally and go try them out. Thanks!