I'm assuming you are asking about the weight difference between the 5.7VVT and the 3.8L since there isn't a substantial difference bewteen the weight of a 5.7VVT and the 6.1 Hemi.
AEV installed my 5.7VVT and their 4.5" lift along with other options, including their front bumper and steel air dam/E-disco skid - a reported 115lbs, a Warn 9.5ti - about 55lbs with the rope in lieu of wire and an aluminum hawse fairlead, their rear bumper - in excess of 100lbs and with 7.5gals of water tankage, their tire carrier - hung with back up light and a BFG 37, a roof rack, five 17" Pintler wheels shod with BFG 37's (one the spare), leather seats, a rear cargo "box" from Bestop, two 9" driving lights, rear corner gaurds and a brick outhouse of a rear diff gaurd all at the same time. The tub was LineX'd as well. That has to be 400-500lbs worth of gear not including four tires on the ground or the Hemi weight gain over the 3.8, which I figure is about 110lbs more. (Found the weight of the Hemi, assumed the 3.8 weighs about 75% as much, since it is 75% the engine in cylinder count.)
Post AEV magic and the Jeep handles better, corners better, steers better, rides better, is more sure footed, has less body lean, brakes straighter and sure has PLENTY of git up and go. Its a hell of a lot more fun too.
My wife has an almost stock JKU Rubicon with the 3.8L and auto and the difference between the two is night and day in every respect. If my Jeep were stolen or totaled - God forbid! - my next one would be delivered straight to AEV for a repeat performance of their magic.
Since getting the Jeep from AEV in August I've added an 18gal auxiliary fuel tank, a snorkel and a small Engel fridge. I've towed couple of +/- 2500lbs trailers and hualed up to ~450lbs corn in an alternatively front or rear mounted hitch hauler both while the Jeep was loaded with hunting gear and had two occupant @ 350lbs combined plus two dogs @ 70lbs/ea or so. Weight hasn't been a factor, brakes are fine too, no issues, no sag with the loaded hitch hauler or trailers. Still PLENTY of go power. I'll be adding a combo trans and engine oil pan skid this spring.
Could the stock Rubicon suspension would handle all of that weight? I don't know, don't think so, I do know it would be struggling at best. The 3.8L could handle the weight and tires, etc, if the gearing was right, which I think would be the lowest available, and that is 5.13's.
JPK