That truly sucks. I'm glad you're ok and no one was more seriously injured. I've had a few reminders recently as to how mortal we are. Something about seeing a healthy person on death's door while you're there holding their hand has a way of doing that.
Having to start over is frustrating... but the van and SUV are both replaceable. The work will be a bigger thing, but this time you'll be able to learn from the first time and do it even better.
I'd love to have a stick... but I've recently passed the 20 year anniversary of my left knee being FUBARed. In 2002 it was described as that of a 95 year old... I just saw that same surgeon today, and he says there still aren't any surgical options, and to continue making the best of it... perhaps in another 10 years. For now, cortisone, and a grease job will have to do... so no new stick vehicles (still have my 40 though).